Skip navigation! Story from Sex. In a way, anal sex is like cilantro: some people find it scrumptious in moderation, while others tried it once, absolutely hated it, and vowed to avoid it forever. Like cilantro haters-turned-lovers, there's a subset of people who swear you can acquire a taste for anal sex if you do it enough. So, what gives? Why do some people find anal sex pleasurable , while others just don't? For starters, it's pretty common to find receiving anal sex uncomfortable or painful, at least at first. In a study on 68 women who have had anal sex,
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We got women who fall on various parts of the anal sex spectrum to share exactly what it feels like during the act. Read on for their informative — and sometimes hilarious — opinions. But if you're not and you do it nice and slowly, it's euphoric. It's different from regular sex because it feels like he's going way deeper. Anal doesn't help me orgasm more easily, though. We maybe do it once every couple of months. There's nothing fun about it for me. It's not that it's painful, it's just mildly uncomfortable and really not my thing. At one point in high school, I was having more anal than regular sex. He feels bigger than ever and completely fills you up.
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It can feel like anal sex for women is the final frontier. But still, for some, anal is a big deal. But the fact remains that not only have many women tried it, but many women like anal sex. As Sinclair explains, not only is this narrative false, but it's also problematic in more than one way. For instance: that men have a bigger libido than women, that men coerce women into engaging in certain activities in the bedroom, etc. Such a narrative isn't just disingenuous, but puts limitations on what women are "allowed" to find pleasurable. While there's still that a taboo attached to it, the anal sex conversation is being had more and more. During the heyday of Sex and the City , it was addressed a couple times with Samantha Jones saying it felt good with lots of lube!
This study used qualitative methods to assess why women engage in heterosexual anal receptive intercourse AI with a male partner. Four focus groups which comprised women from diverse ethnicities were conducted. All groups were digitally recorded for transcription; transcripts were analyzed using the methods of grounded theory to determine themes. The riskiness of AI was assessed within relationship contexts. Past experience with AI including emotional and physical reactions was identified. Among the negative physical experiences of AI were pain and disliking the sensation, and uncomfortable side effects, such as bleeding of the rectum. Negative emotional experiences of AI included feelings of shame, disgust, and being offended by something her male partner did, such as spitting on his penis for lubrication. Positive physical experiences included liking the sensation. Many of the women also endorsed positive emotional experiences of AI, including that it was more intimate than vaginal sex, and that it was something they reserved only for special partners.