Being the first in his family to make it, he now supports the lives of those who didn't. It sounds like if we were to have a happy ending, it wouldn't be quite so happy because of how we raise our kids or how the rest of the family would treat me forever We'll discuss it again in more depth now that I have a few specific concerns about what our future together might look like. I let people assume what they will. Well guess wat my engagement got cancelled. There's a reason so many Utahns are on anti depressants and anti anxiety meds. Marrying a non-Mormon is not something you do it is something that happens. I let her know I'd been reading on LDS. Anecdotes vs a much larger sample size. It has to do with their character.
If you like her, and I'm assuming you do, I would suggest you continue the relationship and see how things pan out. She seems to be ok with that, and wants to continue our relationship, and also talks about wanting marriage and children, and raising those children to be mormon like her even if I'm not religious. Not one little bit. An interfaith marriage can be done well or disastrously, or even only being made up as you go.
I'd at least insist that at 12 the kids can choose to disaffiliate. Plan on knowing their religion better than they do at all times. Well, maybe not a total disaster, that is a bit exaggerated. All the other stuffв is crap. It's really somethi g to watch a person who is so self absorbed. Here are a few questions you could ask her. You would be her back up plan in case she can't find a guy who is a returned missionary, preferably from a prominent LDS family.
First and most importantly, I see major trust issues in your future if you both think the other is brainwashed. That one I haven't asked him about yet though since I feel like it would be a little presumptuous and might seem like I'm rushing things commitment-wise. But marriages don't last if you have to hold back ugly, sarcastic comments when your partner attends religious services or defends religious beliefs. Work on myself, not him. Point is, I can push myself to my extreme physical ends and he has barely broken a sweat. Is it wrong not to. Yes, it is bad. I don't want that to happen.
